Addiction is a family disease. It affects everyone that surrounds and comes in to contact with the addict. But there comes a time, when the addict must take responsibility for their own problems and issues in life. There comes a time to stop living their addiction with them.
Families are always at the brunt end of any addict's lies, schemes, tricks, and continuous messes in life. And they are always those families who continue to love beyond any measure or any hurt. We take on their issues, and their pains to a point of sacrificing our own physical, mental and emotional state. And it has to stop. Why? We won't be any help to them if we ourselves are sick.
I can sit here and type all the words in the english language, with proper verbage, with fancy adjectives, trying to impress upon the reader some fantastic sense of my reality, but truth be told, sometimes I just get really upset and angry and can't soften the blow. (And believe me those aren't the words I wanted to use.) It is human to have emotion. God gave us all of these things. And some people are even surprised to find out that God gets angry! Can you believe that? Bah! Of course He gets angry, but it is for our own good that He expresses anger and puts fear into us. It is for OUR benefit He does these things so that we learn valuable lessons.
It's no different that parenting our own children. I never knew parenting would be so difficult. Love my children, but it sure is hard to discipline them properly in God's eyes, and to be consistent with that. I haven't done such a great job teaching them the Lord's word, but I am trying to correct their thinking now, as they get a little older. It is difficult to say the least. The enemy has a strong hold on them, and on us as a society, and it is a sad world out there that they, we, live in.
Drugs are out there, and always will be. But they don't have to affect us if we chose not to. We can chose to say "no" to drugs in our lives, even when we aren't the ones taking them. Other people's addictions will render them hopeless and dependant upon the people around them. And we as giving and forgiving people will allow them to manipulate us into enabling their disease to grow and take over their souls and eventually taking us down with them.
Stress in the body, at all levels, is detrimental to one's health. This we know. It causes anxiety, or physical pain, and even worse, it can cause so much damage to emotional, mental and spiritual well being. And when someone you know has given everything they have to give of themselves for more years you can count on two hands starts experiencing this kind of stress that threatens their life, it's time to step in. It's time to pull them out. We as survivors must stay healthy to have the ability to help the others. If we allow our physical health to deteriorate, what good are we? We have taken on someone else's disease and allowed it to manifest itself into physical sickness, in our own bodies, our own minds, and our own hearts.
But they are our children? How can we let them go, or let them get hurt? I know. I can't even begin to imagine being in that situation. I don't think I could cope as well as I have seen others cope. Their strength to continue with this for so many years is purely something to witness. But it will eventually get you too, and so time and faith have to take over. Rest is needed. Surrendering to the Lord, or simply surrendering to begin with is necessary. Let someone else help you because you can't and shouldn't have to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. It's time to ask God for help. I guarantee you He will provide. That doesn't mean saving lives or getting results the way we expect and wish for, but He will provide what is needed, in His eyes, and in His time.
Call for help today, to a family member, or your local addictions hotline. Help yourself to be able to help others. God Bless.
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